To Best Attract Women, Be Yourself!
Be honest, kind, patient, available, and above all, be yourself. You shouldn’t have to fake these qualities; which show themselves naturally if you allow it. If they don’t, if you’re ashamed of who you are for some reason, then perhaps you’re not ready for a relationship, and you need to work on yourself before pursuing your own love quest further. Not only does fully accepting yourself as you are lessen the fear of rejection, but it attracts women as well. I know of no lady who is turned off by honesty. True, they may not always like the honest things you tell them about yourself. But they’ll respect your ability to be honest just the same. The women I’ve dated cited my honesty as one of my most favorable qualities, and no relationship of mine has ever ended because I was too honest.
If you’re not yourself, if you’re behaving differently than you normally would, then a sweetie will probably sense your deception; though you might not be lying intentionally. Indeed, I’ve found that the seduction of a lady occurs more readily when I keep no secrets and put my dreams and desires out on the table early. But then, I’ve endeavored to lead an upstanding life and so really, have no skeletons to hide in the first place; no felony convictions, no history of womanizing, no illicit drug use, no concealed diseases, no hidden sweethearts, and so on.
For better or for worse, I’m pretty clean. But I offer this not to brag, but to show that for me, being forthright is simple because fortunately, I have little to hide that would incriminate me before women. Yes, some women may conclude that I’m uninteresting because “I’ve not lived,” and as a result, they think me naïve. But that’s okay. While many have rejected me due to this straight-laced image that comes through, many others highly respect me for it. Indeed, I’m not out to please everyone; only those who would easily be pleased by me, as I am.
You can never please everyone no matter how you behave. If you’re a bad boy, people will avoid you out of fear, and if you’re good, they’ll stay clear because you’re square. You’ll never win with everyone. So don’t even try; lest you set yourself up for repeated disappointments and painful rejections. Instead, you’d best behave in ways that most reflect your true personality and conscience. This will always put off some, even if you’re absolutely perfect. Indeed, your perfection itself may drive some away because they’ll resent you for being just so darn good.
We all have some negative aspects in our histories that at first, might seem be best kept quiet. Perhaps at one time we did use drugs or were arrested when we were less mature. Maybe we were ordered by a judge to take anger management classes because we beat someone up. But one inescapable hallmark of the human condition is that we make mistakes; particularly when young. We’re not perfect. No one is, even those who judge us for our imperfections. The truth is that while not everyone learns from their mistakes, mistakes are nonetheless, perhaps the best guides to a more respectable and respectful life. Indeed, someone with a history of many mistakes may in fact be a more informed lover than he who has made none. Mistakes are how we grow into more advanced beings, and there isn’t a person alive today who has reached an esteemed position without committing some errors; errors that others might deem shameful if they knew of them.
So while you need not advertise your mistakes to every new girl, do not be ashamed of them (or learn not to be ashamed of them). It’s often said that a man’s confidence attracts women. If so, then to have the most confidence possible, you’ll need to get comfortable with the mistakes you’ve made. Once you have fully accepted your good as well as bad parts, then one way to demonstrate that comfort is to freely discuss your errors; at an appropriate time of course. Honesty can demonstrate confidence if well-timed, and women just love it. With so much lying occuring these days, many ladies long for the man who shares his true self. Honesty shows confidence and confidence attracts women. So honesty attracts women. Honest men can find a girlfriend who better suits and compliments them than those who lie and invent new histories for themselves.
Once we make a mistake, it becomes an indelible and necessary part of the improved person we grow into from it. If that mistake makes us a better person, then it was a good mistake to make. Not that we should be proud of the mistake. But we should stop faulting ourselves for making it. Now I’m not suggesting that you tell her all of your mistakes. Admittedly, it’s difficult to know for sure what to speak and what to keep quiet. Just make sure that what you do tell is simply honest and not misleading. Then, you’ll increase your chances of finding someone who freely accepts you for you. By being truthful, you demonstrate that you’ve accepted yourself, flaws and all, and your acceptance of your true self is necessary in order to fully appreciate another who accepts you for you as well. Good luck.
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