Why Believe In Love At First Sight?
I believe in and have insisted on the presence of love at first sight (LAFS) in my love relationships, because I’ve found that people never grow attractive over time, if they do not appear so in the first moments of first meeting them. Indeed, we should not have to sit and scratch our heads, weighing the pros and cons, and wondering, “Hmmm, do I really desire this woman?” Now we might ponder her trustworthiness that way, as we should; but not her sheer desirability. Love-at-first-sight represents an instant recognition on both conscious and unconscious levels, that the beheld woman might be a good candidate for further consideration as a potentially great lover. Love-at-first-sight efficiently considers the following:
- Her bodily shape (a great indicator of health, age, and vitality),
- Her body language (tells if she might be interested in us, her social status, and her overall manner (rough, gentle, sensitive, or oblivious)).
- How she walks and talks (good info on her breading, upbringing, and potential irreconcilable cultural and value differences).
- Her waist to hip ratio (hints at whether she’ll have greater or fewer complications during pregnancy).
- How she smells (tells whether she’s likely to be habitually clean, or dirty, or if she smokes or is diseased)
- How we react to her sexually (a cue as to how sexually satisfying she’ll be in the bedroom).
Now we’d rather avoid dating people to whom we’re not attracted, and love-at-first-sight guides us in this aim. If we only date those for whom love-at-first-sight is strong, we’re less likely to be disappointed once she finally removes her clothes.
Of course, love-at-first-sight cannot reliably be used as the only basis for eternal happiness, because it offers no guarantees. We can’t know for example, if we’ll want to marry someone tomorrow whom we’ve just met today, regardless of the intensity of the love-at-first-sight we feel. Women especially site this limitation as good reason for completely dismissing love-at-first-sight as a useful tool for detecting the most suitable mates. But whoever said that love-at-fist-sight works like a crystal ball? It does not. All it suggests is possibility, and nothing definite.
More specifically, love-at-first-sight is, in my view, a necessary first step in building a long-term fulfilling relationship; especially for males. Men are more likely to achieve maximal satisfaction in love with ladies they initially deem absolutely stunning and thus, where there’s a strong initial attraction. Unfortunately, women who only move men to feelings of trusting and comfortable friendship will typically never become the highly intriguing or explosive lovers that so many of us are looking for.
While we can’t know based on love-at-first-sight alone that a relationship will indeed work out, we can rest assured that without love-at-first-sight, it will likely fail. Or, if it succeeds, then it will for the wrong reasons. The relationship born of friendship will have started on those same shaky grounds that will not sure up over time. The presence of love-at-first-sight does not assure that we’ll be able to achieve lasting and gratified intimacy with the candidate, although it helps immensely. It’s hard therefore to imagine couples lasting very long who did not feel love at first sight early in their associations.
Further, by definition, the magnetism of love at first sight appears immediately. Yet contrary to popular belief, these initial love feelings typically can last indefinitely, so long as the combination of variables that founded love-at-first-sight doesn’t change much. These include personality, behavior, habits, physical appearance, health, and so on.
It’s interesting how so many women believe that that the shorter the time that love takes to appear, the less substantial it is. Easy come, easy go they think. But I would argue otherwise — that the more quickly love lust appears (as it does in love-at-first-sight), the greater the chances of the attraction lasting a very long time. You’ve heard the saying that the quicker they fall, the harder they fall. This is so true in love. My experiences with [First Love] make that crystal clear in my mind. I fell immediately, and stayed in love for decades. Indeed love-at-first-sight began every one of my own long-term love interests.
So you’ve probably guessed by now that I believe strongly in love-at-first-sight, and recognize how essential a component it is in attaining lasting satisfaction in love. I would never begin a new love relationship without it.
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